What we think of ourselves affects what others think of us, and we draw people to support our thinking. You might want to read that again. So if we believe negative things about ourselves, so will those around us. Therefore, if we think positive things about ourselves, so will those around us.
If we believe, I am not cut out for this job, or I’m just not as smart as the others I work with, etc.; We shouldn’t be surprised when the promotion is given to someone else. If we say to ourself, I will never get married, I’m too quiet, too fat, too ugly, too set in my ways, too…., then we can’t be surprised when were not. This theory applies to everything in our lives, our marriages, our houses, our relationships, our parenting, etc.
Now that we have at least a small grasp on that concept, add this to it. What we think of ourselves, also can come across to others as to what we think of them.
So when the door bell rings and we find ourselves apologizing for our messy house, or our messy looking hair, etc., we have to dissect this. We are saying to ourselves, just before this person came over I was at least ok with myself and my house, maybe didn’t like it, yet was ok with it. Now with our negative thoughts we are thinking we are not good enough, nor is our house.
Also we have drawn to their attention maybe something they would not have even noticed. If that is not enough, we are telling them we think they are a person that cares about these kind of things. Furthermore, whatever their negative thoughts lead them to believe we think of them.
A perfect example is a Call the Midwife episode, I was watching the other day. There was a midwife(Chummy) that is characterized as a tall, clumsy, heavier then the others, sensitive, shy gal(truly enjoy her in the show). She is dating a police constable(Peter), whom she loves very much and feels very blessed that he feels the same about her.
Chummy’s high society mother visits and harshly lets her know, for no uncertain terms does she approve of her place of employment or the man she is dating.
Chummy then tells Peter that it is over between them. “Why?” Peter asked. “I have always known my place and who I am.” she tells him. She believed she wasn’t worthy of him, because of her negative thinking, she had always thought of herself. Her mother confirms her thinking by indicating she wasn’t capable of making good decisions and definitely wasn’t right for him.
Therefore, she acknowledged her negative thinking, and told him he wasn’t good enough; or that she didn’t feel loved enough. Consequently, he had always treated her with the greatest love and respect. Yet now she was rejecting him.
Although this really had nothing to do with him, this all started with her negative feelings about herself. I’m so glad she was able to take back her power and tell her mom those negatives thoughts were no longer going to fly. This man loved her, and she was worthy of him. If he would take her back she was going to keep him. She also kept the job and she went on to marry him.
So what if we decided today to change our negative thinking to God’s thinking. What if we were to believe what His word says about us. Psalms 139:14 says; I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well. There are many verses to help us understand how God sees us. Lets take back our power that God has given us with His life.
REST IN THE LORD!!!!
Let our prayers be more like, thank you Lord for my messy house, it means I have shelter for my family and myself. He has given you a job, be grateful. The many talents He has created in you. Appreciate the beauty He so graciously has allowed you, whether it be inside or out. May it glorify Him. Do we thank Him for our beautiful children He has so graciously entrusted us with? Help me to reflect your love, grace, patience, kindness, understanding, etc. on them even when humanness doesn’t comply. Find gratefulness in everything. It is possible if we keep our eyes on the Lord and not our own abilities or the fickle approval of others.
Romans 8:31 If God is for us, who can be against us?
Believe what He says about you, He is the authority!!!